`Sugar Coated Delusions`

December 19, 2019

Fuji X100* Kodakchrome simulation Settings

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 2:36 pm

from: https://fujixweekly.com/2017/10/21/my-fujifilm-x100f-vintage-kodachrome-film-simulation-recipe/

Classic Chrome
Dynamic Range: DR200
Highlight: +4
Shadow: -2
Color: +4
Sharpening: +1
Noise Reduction: -3
Grain: Strong
White Balance: Auto, +2 Red, -4 Blue
ISO: Auto up to ISO 6400
Exposure Compensation: -1/3 to -1 (typically)

December 18, 2019

square root of three by David Feinberg

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 1:32 pm

square root of three by David Feinberg
(from harold and kumar movie)

I’m sure that I will always be
A lonely number like root three

The three is all that’s good and right,
Why must my three keep out of sight
Beneath the vicious square root sign,
I wish instead I were a nine

For nine could thwart this evil trick,
with just some quick arithmetic

I know I’ll never see the sun, as 1.7321
Such is my reality, a sad irrationality

When hark! What is this I see,
Another square root of a three

As quietly co-waltzing by,
Together now we multiply
To form a number we prefer,
Rejoicing as an integer

We break free from our mortal bonds
With the wave of magic wands

Our square root signs become unglued
Your love for me has been renewed

That's Not My Job

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 1:32 pm

That’s Not My Job
by: Author Unknown, Source Unknown

This’s a story about four people: Everybody, Somebody, Anybody and
Nobody.

There was an important job to be done and Everybody was sure that
Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it but Nobody did it.
Somebody got angry about that, because it was Everybody’s job. Everybody
thought Anybody could do it but Nobody realised that Everybody wouldn’t
do it.

It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody
have done.

The Big Difference
by: Bill Greer, Chicken Soup for the Veteran’s Soul

The Boss drives his men, The Leader inspires them..
The Boss depends on authority, The Leader depends on goodwill..
The Boss evokes fear, The Leader radiates love..
The Boss says “I”, The Leader says “We”..
The Boss shows who is wrong, The Leader shows what is wrong..
The Boss knows how it is done, The Leader knows how to do it..
The Boss demands respect, The Leader commands respect..

Take a Stand
by: Denis Waitley, Chicken Soup for the Soul at Work

Jackie Robinson made history when he became the first black baseball
player to break into the major leagues by joining the Brooklyn Dodgers.
Branch Rickey, owner of the Dodgers at that time, told Robinson, “It’ll
be tough. You’re going to take abuse you never dreamed of. But if you’re
willing to try, I’ll back you all the way.”

And Rickey was right. Jackie was abused verbally (not to mention
physically by runners coming into second base). Racial slurs from the
crowd and members of his own team, as well as from opponents, were
standard fare.

One day, Robinson was having it particularly tough. He had booted two
ground balls, and the boos were cascading over the diamond. In full view
of thousands of spectators, Pee Wee Reese, the team captain and Dodger
shortstop, walked over and put his arm around Jackie right in the middle
of the game.

“That may have saved my career,” Robinson reflected later. “Pee Wee made
me feel that I Belonged.”

Be sure that the employees on your team feel that they belong.

Jessie’s Glove
by: Rick Phillips, Heart At Work

I do a lot of management training each year for the Circle K
Corporation, a national chain of convenience stores. Among the topics we
address in our seminars is the retention of quality employees – a real
challenge to managers when you consider the pay scale in the service
industry. During these discussions, I ask the participants,

“What has caused you to stay long enough to become a manager?” Some time
back a new manager took the question and slowly, with her voice almost
breaking, said, “It was a $19 baseball glove.”

Cynthia told the group that she originally took a Circle K clerk job as
an interim position while she looked for something better. On her second
or third day behind the counter, she received a phone call from her
nine-year old son, Jessie. He needed a baseball glove for Little League.
She explained that as a single mother, money was very tight, and her
first check would have to go for paying bills. Perhaps she could buy his
baseball glove with her second or third check.

When Cynthia arrived for work the next morning, Patricia, the store
manager, asked her to come to the small room in back of the store that
served as an office. Cynthia wondered if she had done something wrong or
left some part of her job incomplete from the day before. She was
concerned and confused.

Patricia handed her a box. “I overheard you talking to your son
yesterday,” she said, “and I know that it is hard to explain things to
kids. This is a baseball glove for Jessie because he may not understand
how important he is, even though you have to pay bills before you can
buy gloves. You know we can’t pay good people like you as much as we
would like to; but we do care, and I want you to know you are important
to us.”

The thoughtfulness, empathy and love of this convenience store manager
demonstrates vividly that people remember more how much an employer
cares than how much the employer pays. An important lesson for the price
of a Little League baseball glove.

Lesson from a Rainy Day
by: Grace, Source Unknown

August 26, 1999 is a day that many New Yorkers would probably like to
forget. However, this New Yorker will always remember that day because
that is the day that I learned what a powerful gift appreciation can
truly be.

On August 26, 1999, New York City experienced a torrential downpour. The
relentless rain caused the streets to flood. New York City’s subway
system came to a screeching halt as the subway stations were inundated
with water. Unfortunately, this happened during the morning rush hour.

Many people who were going to work were stranded and forced to go home.
Some battled with fellow New Yorkers to hail a cab or to get on a bus.
Still others braved the storm, walking miles to get to work.

I happened to be one of people on her way to work that morning. I went
from subway line to subway line only to find that most service had
stopped. After running around like crazy and making my way through
crowds of people, I finally found a subway line that was operating.
Unfortunately, there were so many people waiting to board the subway
that I could not even get down the stairs to the platform. Undaunted and
determined to get to work, I decided to take the train uptown several
stops and then switch back to the downtown train. It was a hassle, but
it paid off. However, the train got more packed at each stop. People
pushed and shoved. I was constantly hit with elbows and bags. Finally,
after what seemed like an eternity, the train reached my stop.

But the journey was not over yet. I would still have to walk several
blocks to get to my office. The rain had intensified, and no umbrella
was enough to withstand the forces of Mother Nature. When I finally got
to work, I was completely soaked and left a puddle of water everywhere I
sat. I was also exhausted and discouraged from my commute.

My coworkers and I spent most of the day drying off. When 5:00 rolled
around, I was ready to go home. I was about to log off my computer when
I received an email from Garth, my Deputy Director. I opened the email
and found the following message:

I would like to thank all those associates who made the effort and
eventually reported to work. It is always reassuring, at times like
these, when employees so clearly demonstrate their dedication to their
jobs. Thank you.

As you can see, Garth’s email was short, but I learned more from that
brief message than I ever did from a textbook. The email taught me that
a few words of appreciation can make a big difference. The rainstorm and
the transit troubles had made me miserable and weary. But Garth’s words
immediately invigorated me and put a smile back on my face.

Garth’s actions also made me realize that words of appreciation not only
make you feel good but it also motivates and inspires you. After reading
his email, I felt that coming to work that day was an accomplishment
that I should be proud of. Suddenly getting drenched and the extremely
long commute did not seem so bad. As a matter of fact, his email made
the whole subway ordeal all worthwhile.

Sometimes we are so wrapped up in our lives that we forget the magical
power of appreciation. Garth had been caught in the rain like the rest
of us. He had to tend to his responsibilities. He also had to cope with
the numerous absences in the five areas that he manages. And he had to
take on his boss’ responsibilities, as she was unable to get to work.
Yet, he still found time to send an email thanking his employees for
their dedication and the extra effort they had made to get to work.
Garth taught me that I should never be too busy to show people my
appreciation and to acknowledge the positive things they do. This was
the most valuable lesson that anyone could ever give me. And for that, I
will always be grateful to Garth.

August 26, 1999 may have been one of the darkest days in New York City
history, but it was one of the brightest days in my life thanks to
Garth.

True Leader, A
by: Martin L. Johnson, Chicken Soup for the Soul at Work

A few years ago, Pioneer Hi-Bred International, where I was employed,
purchased Norand Corporation. Pioneer’s sales representatives in the
field used Norand hand-held terminals to upload daily sales information
and download new price and sales incentive information. Pioneer bought
so many of these hand-held terminals, the economics made the purchase of
Norand look interesting. Owning Norand also allowed Pioneer to explore
high-technology markets outside agriculture.

But after a few years, the emerging laptop PC technology made the
hand-held units obsolete. Pioneer sold Norand at a loss. Pioneer always
took a given percent of the annual profits to divide equally among all
employees, so our profit-sharing checks were lower than if Pioneer had
not purchased Norand. Additionally, my Pioneer stock was lower than it
had been before the purchase of Norand. I was not pleased.

The CEO of Pioneer, Tom Urban, made annual formal visits to each of the
Pioneer divisions to talk about the state of the business and to listen
to employees’ concerns. When he walked into the meeting room for his
first visit after the sale of Norand, he acknowledged the group, removed
his jacket and neatly folded it across the back of the chair. He
loosened his tie, undid his collar and rolled up his sleeves. The next
thing he said was the last thing I ever expected to hear a CEO say.

He said, “I made a mistake buying Norand and I am sorry. I am sorry your
profit-sharing was lower because of the purchase, and I am sorry your
stock was hurt by the purchase. I will continue to take risks, but I am
a bit smarter now, and I will work harder for you.” The room was quiet
for a moment before he asked for questions.

A great man and leader stood before us that day. As I sat listening to
him, I knew I could trust him, and that he deserved every bit of loyalty
I could give to him and to Pioneer. I also knew I could take risks in my
own job.

In the brief moment of silence before the questions started, I recall
thinking that I would follow him into any battle.

You’ll Get Exactly What You Expect
by: Bruce D. Zimmerman, Source Unknown

I remember a young lady who went to work for a company immediately after
graduating from college. She seemed extremely talented but unbelievably
timid.

She was assigned to a division-level marketing department where she
assisted in the production of advertising and collateral material. Her
supervisor associated her shyness with a lack of technical and
conceptual skills. As a result, she was never included in brainstorming
or planning sessions. The supervisor thought she was best suited to
simple graphics layout and paste-up.

Frustrated that her talents were squandered on simple tasks, she applied
to the corporate marketing department. The vice-president reviewed her
resume and transferred her without interviewing her at length. His
concept of the young lady was positive and assigned her to a series of
important, key projects. She performed magnificently.

A few months later, the original supervisor was in the vice-president’s
office admiring the new corporate ad campaign. The project consisted of
television and radio commercials, full-page ads for national
publications and complete press kits. The supervisor asked, “What kind
of a Madison Avenue rain-maker worked this kind of magic?” The VP
replied, “This was all completed by that young lady you sent me. That
was the best move I ever made!”

This is but one example of the dozens of cases I can document where
individuals were literally hobbled by low or incorrect expectations. In
many instances, the mind set of a co-worker or supervisor can restrict
an employee’s ability to become an excellent performer.

This cause-and-effect model applies to all aspects of our lives. The
neighbor’s young son asked if he could mow my yard. I told him I would
talk to his dad first. The father said, “I don’t think he can handle a
mower. I never let him near mine. Go ahead if you like.” I assured him I
would watch his son closely and be certain he could handle the equipment
safely.

The boy not only knew how to handle the mower, but did such a good job,
I asked him to help each week. His dad was amazed. “I never would have
guessed,” he said. “You should have given him a chance,” I suggested.

Fakers in IT…

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 12:51 pm

Thanks Reddit

These are the fakers I hate the most

For the camouflaged faker types, the manager will have a hard time noticing their BS specially if the faker is of the opposite gender.

These type end up abusing certain group “privileges” and highly manipulative (READ: ends up having the competent co-workers do the work in the disguise that they don’t know/ not aware of it. which: (a.) they probably should know given the “work experience” they have for the job and if they have really been working all the year noted in their inflated CV and (b.) if they have really been doing technical working at all.)

These people have no shame and play life as if they are victims.

BDM Witch Buid 1

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 12:28 pm

from: https://www.reddit.com/r/blackdesertonline/comments/5s0tdi/returned_to_bdo_and_looking_for_a_witch_build/

Pre-56, lightning storm, lightning, chain lightning, residual lightning, and blizzard+ultimate are the only damage skills you need to max.
At some point, chain lightning won’t really do all that much damage so I just left it at the first level from 52-56. I kept lightning at max though because it’s your 100% spirit skill. Don’t waste your skill points on fireball and fb explosion. While it’s great cc, it knocks everything away from you and could knock some mobs away from your aoe range.

For utility pre-56, max magic lighthouse first. I cannot tell you how convenient the skill is, especially at max level since it’ll have a 100% uptime. Next, healing lighthouse, then healing aura. The spellbound heart is good, but I generally didn’t need it.

I never really used speed spell as I got too lazy to use it when it was up. Mana absorption can stay at level 1. While i used it on cooldown, I didn’t really need it to be more than it already was at level 1.

For post awakening, you’re only maxing your utility skills. At 56, black spirit will give you a skill reset item. After you reset your skills, make sure to max these at 56: Healing lighthouse, healing aura, speed spell, spellbound heart, sage’s memory, and magic lighthouse(at some point, I think at 58/59/60, you’ll have 100% uptime on toxic flood which is the awakening version of magic lighthouse so you won’t need it anymore. I still use magic lighthouse post-56). You don’t need mana absorption at 56 because mana isn’t a problem when you get your awakening.

November 27, 2019

Hidden Gems From Ancient Philosophers

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 7:46 am

• The people you interact with the most influence your behavior. Consciously consider whom you allow into your life, and choose to spend more time with those that hold you accountable and encourage you to move forward.
• Those who don’t prepare for the unexpected pay a high price when tackling important issues and are more likely to give up. Things can go wrong, anticipate worst-case scenarios to mitigate or avoid it.
• Acting based on habit can lead to mistakes whenever the situations at hand mismatch the ones that led to the creation of the habit.
• Be as invested in building yourself as you are in building your professional life. Study yourself, have ideas, develop them and the relationships that further them.
• Ignore the breaking news and focus on what’s in front of you.
• Take pride in your work, but know that it is not all there is. Don’t get so wrapped up in your work that you think you’re immune from the reality of aging and life.

September 16, 2019

Meantime Girl

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 5:37 pm

She’s the one you call when you’re bored because
she makes you laugh… she’s the one you talk to
when you’re feeling down because she’s willing
to lend an ear and be a friend… She’s not the
one you call when you need a date to your
company’s Christmas party, or to go dancing with
on a Saturday night… She’s the one you spend
time with between girlfriends, before you
find “The One.” You know, the one who you keep
around in the meantime.She’s not one of the
guys, not a tomboy, but you don’t look at her
as “real woman” either. She’s not *****y enough,
moody enough, or sexy enough to be seen in that
light. She’s too laid-back, too easily amused by
the same things your male buddies are amused by.
She’s too understanding… too comfortable — she
doesn’t make you feel nervous or excited the way
a “real woman” does. But she’s cool, and nice,
and funny, and attractive enough that when
you’re lonely or horny and need intimate female
companionship, she’ll do just fine…You don’t
have to wine and dine her because she knows the
real you already, and you don’t have any facades
to keep up, no pretenses to preserve. You’re not
trying to get anything of substance out of her.
She’s not easy, but you know that she cares
about you, and is attracted to you, and that
she’ll give you the intimacy you need. And you
know you don’t have to explain yourself or the
situation… that she’ll be able to cope with the
fact that this isn’t the beginning of a
relationship or that there’s any possibility
that you have any real romantic feelings for
her. It won’t bother her that you’ll get up in
the morning, put on your pants, say goodbye, and
go on a date with the woman you’ve been mooning
over for weeks who finally agreed to go out with
you. She’ll settle for a goodbye hug and a
promise to call her and tell her how the date
went. She’s just so cool… why can’t all women be
like that?!..But deep down, if you really think
about it (which you probably don’t because to
you, the situation between the two of you isn’t
important enough to merit any real thought), you
know that it’s really not fair. You know that
although she would never say it, it hurts her to
know that despite all her good points and all
the fun you two have, you don’t think she’s good
enough to spend any real time with.Sure, it’s
mostly her fault, because she doesn’t have to
give in to your needs — she could play the
hard-to-get-***** like the rest of them do, if
she really wanted to. But you and she both know
that she probably couldn’t pull it off. Maybe
she’s too short, or a little overweight, or has
a big birthmark on her forehead, or works at
Taco Bell, or just really not that type.
Whatever the reason somehow. Life has given her a
lot of really great qualities but has left out
the
ones that men want (or think they want) in a
woman. So she remains forever the funny friend…
the steadfast companion… the secret lover… and
you go on searching for your goddess who will
somehow be everything you ever wanted in a
woman.You’ll joke to her that she should be the
best man at your wedding, and she’ll laugh and
make a joke about a smelly rental tux.She
doesn’t captivate you with her beauty or open
doors with her smile. Mainly she blends in with
the crowd. She’s safe. She doesn’t want to be
the center of attention and turn the heads of
everyone in the room. But she wants to turn
someone’s head. She wants to be special to
someone too. We all do.She has feelings. She has
a heart. In fact, she probably has a bigger and
better heart than any woman you’ve ever known
because she’s had a front row seat to “The Mess
That Is Your Life”, and she likes you anyway.
She obviously sees something worthwhile and
redeeming in you because although you’ve given
her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be
around, she is…

July 20, 2019

Courage in the Workplace

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 2:34 am

Chanced upon these in some sites, unfortunately I did not note down the source links…

Courage in the workplace means that reassessing the beliefs, behaviors, assumptions and control issues that keep organizations stuck in outdated modes of operation. It does not mean being heroic or brave to show the extraordinary capabilities or confronting the negativity with the egoistic reactions; rather it refers to the ability and willingness to confront fear, uncertainty, intimidation, or difficulty on the job by having in-depth knowledge of one’s belief, liberation, and insight.

Courage to try:
is the courage of action. It is the courage of initiative. TRY Courage requires you to exert energy in order to overcome inertia.
Certainly, it is easier not to do something than to do it, which is one reason why many people prefer to stay in their “comfort zones.”
It takes courage to TRY something, particularly when you’ve not done it before. This is the kind of courage that’s demonstrated when someone “steps up to the plate,” for example, taking on a project on which others have failed.

You experience your courage to try whenever you must attempt something for the very first time, as when you cross over a threshold that other people may have already crossed over.

The courage of try is associated with:

“Stepping up to the plate,” such as volunteering for a leadership role.
First attempts; for example, the first time you lead an important strategic initiative for the company.
Pioneering efforts, such as leading an initiative that your organization has never done before.
Taking action.

All courage buckets come with a risk, and the risk is what causes people to avoid behaving with courage. The risk associated with TRY Courage is that your courageous actions may harm you, and, perhaps more importantly, other people. If you act on the risk and wipe out, not only are you likely to be hurt, but you could also potentially harm those around you. It is the risk of harming yourself or others that most commonly causes people to avoid exercising their Courage to try.

Courage to trust:

involves resisting the temptation to control other people. Unlike TRY Courage, TRUST Courage is not about action. Instead it often involves inaction, or “letting go” of the need to control. With TRUST Courage, you step back and follow the lead of others. A common example of TRUST Courage is delegation. TRUST Courage is very hard for people who tend to be controlling and those who have been burned by trusting people in the past. TRUST Courage, though, is a crucial element in building strong bonds between people.

The courage of trust is associated with:

Releasing control, such as delegating a task without hovering over the person to whom you’ve delegated.
Following the lead of others, such as letting a direct report facilitate your meeting.
Presuming positive intentions and giving team members the benefit of the doubt.

TRUST Courage, of course, comes with a risk. The risk associated with TRUST Courage isn’t that you will harm other people, but that by trusting them, they might harm you. By trusting others, you open yourself up to the possibility of your trust being misused. Thus, many people, especially those who have been betrayed in the past, find offering people trust very difficult. For them, entrusting others is an act of courage.

Courage to tell
is the courage of voice. TELL Courage is what is needed to tell the truth, regardless of how difficult that truth may be for others to hear. It is the courage to not bite your tongue when you feel strongly about something. Brown-nosing and people pleasing are symptoms of low TELL Courage. TELL Courage requires independence of thought. We also use our TELL Courage when we take responsibility for a mistake or offer an apology. Whenever we speak up and say what’s hard to say, whether it be speaking truth to power, admitting a mistake, or saying “I’m sorry,” we are using TELL Courage.

The courage of TELL is associated with:

Speaking up and asserting yourself when you feel strongly about an issue.
Telling the truth, regardless of where the person to whom you are telling the truth resides in the organizational hierarchy, such as presenting an idea to your boss’s boss.
Using constructive confrontation, such as providing difficult feedback to a peer, direct report, or boss.
Admitting mistakes and saying, “I am sorry.”

TELL Courage can be scary and comes with risks too. We avoid using TELL Courage because we don’t want to offend others and fear being cast out of the group. The need for affiliation with those we work with is very strong, and the risk of TELL Courage is that, by speaking up and asserting ourselves, we will be cast out of the group and won’t “belong” anymore.

January 31, 2019

The Butterfly

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 2:51 pm

Once there was a
butterfly
in my palm..

but i let it fly away..

Not because i dont love it..

but because i wanted it
to enjoy with
flowers and the bees..

Keeping it in my palm
wont make it the best
butterfly it can be..

so from a distance..

im happier watching it
fly and play in the
garden while the sun is
still shining..

because when the rain comes..

i know..

if it truly loves me..

it will fly back to me…

January 30, 2019

LIFE and LOVE explained…

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 5:21 pm

Life is the process of finding love; every person will need to find four people in their life.

First person is you,

Second person is the one you love most,

Third person is the one who love you most,

And the fourth is the one you spend the rest of your life with…

In life, initially, you will meet the one you love most, and learn how love feels. Because you know how love feels, so you can find the person who loves YOU most. When you experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, you will then know what it is you need most. Then you will find the person who is most suitable for you, to be able to spend the rest of your life with.

Sadly, in real life, these three people are usually not the same person.

The one you love most doesn’t love you.

The one, who love you most, is never the one you love most.

And the one you spend your life with, is never the one you love most or the one who love you most. He is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time.

Which person are you in other people’s life?

No person will purposely have a change of heart.

At the point in time when he loves you, he really loves you.

But when he doesn’t love you anymore, he really doesn’t love you anymore.

When he loves you, he cant pretend that he doesn’t.

Same goes, when he loves you no more, there’s no way he can pretend he loves you.

When a person doesn’t love you and wants to leave you, you must ask yourself if you still love him. If you also don’t love him anymore, do not keep him just to save your pride.

If you still love him, you should wish him happiness, and hope that he will be with the one he loves mot, not stop him from it.

If you stop him from finding true happiness with the one he loves, it shows you already don’t love him, and if you don’t love him, what rights do you have to blame him for a change of heart?

LOVE IS NOT POSSESSIVE.

If you like the moon, you cant just take it down and put it in your basin. But the moonlight still shines upon you.

In other words, when you love a person, you may use another method of possessing the person.

Let him become a permanent memory in your life.

If you really love a person, you must love him for what he is. Love him for his good points, and the bad. You can’t wish for him to become like what you like him to be just because you love him. If he can’t change to become what you like him to be, you don’t love him anymore.

When you really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love him.

You only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad, you will wish to have this person to be with you.

Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria.

In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end.

Being away form each other is a type of test. If the relationship isn’t strong, then you can only admit defeat.

Real love will never become hate. When two people are in love, they love to ask each other to swear, to make promises… Why do they ask each other to swear and promise? Because they don’t trust each other, they don’t trust their lover.

These swear and promises are useless:

“Till the sky falls, till the ocean dry, my love for you will never change!”

We all know that the sky will never fall; the ocean will never dry. Even if it does happen, are we still alive by then?

Be careful when making promises; don’t make promises that you cannot keep. Swear by things that can never happen, because it can never happen, so no harm just saying it casually. Remember, swearing by things that can never happen are the most touching?

In a relationship, what you say is one thing, but what you do is another;

The one saying doesn’t believe; the one listening also doesn’t believe.

“Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have…”

Far Away – Nickleback

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 10:55 am

This time, this place misused, mistakes
Too long, too late, who was I to make you wait?
Just one chance, just one breath
Just in case there’s just one left
‘Cause you know you know, you know

That I love you I have loved you all along and I miss you
Been far away for far too long
I keep dreaming you’ll be with me and you’ll never go
Stop breathing if I don’t see you anymore

On my knees, I’ll ask last chance for one last dance
‘Cause with you, I’d withstand
All of hell to hold your hand
I’d give it all I’d give for us
Give anything, but I won’t give up
‘Cause you know you know, you know

That I love you I have loved you all along and I miss you
Been far away for far too long
I keep dreaming you’ll be with me and you’ll never go
Stop breathing if I don’t see you anymore

So far away, so far away
Been far away for far too long
So far away, so far away
Been far away for far too long
But you know, you know, you know

I wanted, I wanted you to stay
‘Cause I needed, I need to hear you say
That I love you, I have loved you all along
And I forgive you, for being away for far too long
So keep breathing, ’cause I’m not leaving
Hold on to me and never let me go
Keep breathing, ’cause I’m not leaving you anymore

Believe it, hold on to me and
Never let me go, keep breathing
Hold on to me and never let me go (Keep breathing)
Hold on to me and never let me go

January 29, 2019

Collection of Thoughts

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 2:21 pm

Anyone who has gone through the agony of losing someone she/he loves so much will still wish against all odds to have that love back again. But sometimes a love lost is a love gone forever. No amount of hope can bring back to life a relationship that just died a natural death.
Set your self free. Let your heart spread its wings and fly.
Remember, it may rain for 40 days and 40 nights, but still will not rain forever. One day the pouring will stop and there will be plenty of branches where you can find rest. One of these is where you will build your nest and start over again. It’s never too late. Remember, you may find love and lose it but…

“WHEN LOVE DIES, YOU NEVER HAVE TO DIE WITH IT.”

Remember, you cannot be a redeemer all your life. The
best way to weigh a relationship is out it in the test of fire. You
cannot be a sooner of your mistake forever.
Remember, we all fall and make wrong decisions but our blunders are meant not to bury us deep in misery but to teach us the valued lessons of life. Loving is always a learning process. With love, we learn how to care and sacrifice. We learn to share and reach out.

We learn to be UNSELFISH AND GIVE MORE THAN WE CAN.

And when everything doesn’t end well, we learn how it
feels like to fall and get hurt. But learning doesn’t have to end there. After our fall, we strive to get back on our feet and move on. This is where we learn that…

LIFE DOESN’T END WHERE OUR HEARTACHES BEGIN
THERE IS NO FUTURE IN A RELATIONSHIP OF LIES AND
SELFISHNESS.

It’s true, there is life in love. But, there can still
be life even after losing love if you leave the past behind and let your heart heal and give you the chance to find your self again. The success of a relationship lies not only in the beauty of its beginning but in its consistency. Make a choice not on impulse but a decision based on a healthy balance of mind and heart. Let us always remember that…

HAPPINESS IS NOT A MATTER OF DESTINY BUT A MATTER OF
CHOICE.

There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon
someone so nice and beautiful and we just find our selves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon becomes a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions.
The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than friendship. We start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer but in the end our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves.

“YOU DON’T HAVE TO FORGET SOMEONE YOU LOVE.
WHAT YOU NEED TO LEARN IS HOW TO ACCEPT THE VERDICT OF REALITY WITHOUT BEING BITTER OR SORRY FOR YOURSELF.
YOU WOULD BE BETTER OFF GIVING THAT THE DEDICATION AND LOVE TO SOMEONE MORE DESERVING.”

Don’t let your heart run your life, be sensible and let
your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well. Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow.

IF YOU LOSE LOVE, THAT DOESN’T MEAN THAT YOU HAVE FAILED
IN LOVE. CRY IF YOU HAVE TO, BUT MAKE SURE THAT TEARS WASH AWAY THE HURT AND THE BITTERNESS THAT
THE PAST LEFT YOU WITH. LET GO OF YESTERDAY AND LOVE
WILL FIND ITS WAY BACK TO YOU.

And when it does, pray that it may be the love that
will stay and last a lifetime. A woman on the rebound could easily fall for sweeping emotions and be made to falsely believe that she finally stumbled upon the right man when what she just found is only someone to cover up for the love she lost. A man who makes a promise with words and not with actions may never live up to fulfill them.

ITS TRUE THAT LOVE CAN WAIT FOREVER
BUT IT IS CRAZY TO STUBBORNLY HOPE FOR SOMEONE
WHO DOESN’T EVEN CARE OR UNDERSTAND HOW WE FEEL.

Love makes us see things through rose-colored glasses. Most of the time, we fail to recognize the danger sign that light up along our way. This feeling you have nurtured for so long isn’t healthy anymore. You must realize that you have to let go now before it consumes you and your sanity. There is always a time to think and stop. A time to be sensible and not allow our hearts to rule over our heads.

I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY NOT IN THE ARMS OF A MAN WHO
KEEPS ME WAITING BUT IN THE ARMS OF SOMEONE WHO WILL TAKE ME NOW AND LOVE ME FOREVER.

If loving a person who attached to someone else is a
crime, then maybe many of us would have been jailed long before we realize what its consequences could have been.
Loving someone is never a sin. It is what people do
out of love that sometimes makes it all wrong. The selfish desire to want that person is what makes it a sin.

DON’T THINK ONLY OF YOUR FEELINGS, FOR REAL LOVE
DOESN’T HAVE A PLACE FOR SELFISH PEOPLE.

When there is love, there is always sacrifice.
When we love someone, we never easily give up on that
person. Even if we get hurt badly we always try to find a way to ease the pain and learn to understand and forgive.
Loving too much doesn’t hurt. It is when we expect this love to be reciprocated that we begin to seek approval and acceptance of the things we have done and when we are taken for granted and rejected, we curse the very same love that we once freely and happily offered.

DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME WAITING FOR SOMEONE WHO NEVER
REALLY CARED ABOUT HOW YOU WOULD HAVE FELT. OPEN YOUR HEART AGAIN AND GIVE YOURSELF THE CHANCE TO FIND THE MAN WHO WOULD MAKE LOVING WORTH THE PAIN AND THE SACRIFICE.

Just like anything else, our love grows weak and dies
if not taken cared of. It can keep up with pain only to a certain
extent. Beyond that, it withers without any hope of recovery and soon dies.

GOD WAKES US UP IN THE MIDST OF A STORM TO TEACH US A LESSON. HE TAKES AWAY PEOPLE WE LOVE, SO WE CAN LEARN TO VALUE LOVE ITSELF. HE MAKES US CRY SO HARD SO WE CAN SEE CLEARLY WHEN WE OPEN OUR EYES. HE MAKES US BITTER SO WE CAN REALIZE THAT THERE IS NO GENUINE HAPPINESS IF WE THINK ONLY OF OUR NEEDS AND NOT OF OTHERS?

Relationships built on jealousy and selfishness are doomed from the very beginning. The hardest part of losing love is letting go and moving on. Most of us cry endlessly over things that could
have been but never will be.
God allows us to experience pain to make us stronger and better persons. He will see us through the most trying and difficult times in our lives and only if we put our trust in Him can we learn to find joy in our tears and happiness in our sorrows.
In many failed relationships, separation comes as the
inevitable choice but moving on always proves to be twice as difficult as letting go. Sometimes, the end of a relationship is imposed on us, but our choice to hold on is always beyond the control of circumstance.
Letting go is a decision that can never be dictated on us. It is
a resolve we make ourselves. Acceptance is the key to a new beginning and Time is the healer of all wounds. Even if the storm casts its fearful shadow, there will always be light after our darkest and loneliest moments. There is always a hope for those who believe. There is always a chance for those who try.

LOSING SOMEONE WE LOVE MAY NOT BE A LOSS AT ALL
BUT A BLESSING BECAUSE SOMEONE EVEN MORE DESERVING IS
YET TO COME.

There is nothing wrong in expressing our feelings to someone we love, but…

WE MUST ALWAYS BE SENSITIVE TO THE SIGNALS THAT TELL
US WHEN TO RATIONALIZE AND BE SENSIBLE.

There comes a time in our lives when we would fall for
someone who wouldn’t be as interested as we are because his
attention is focused on someone else. There are many times when we love but don’t get loved in return.

THERE ARE TIMES WHEN THE SIGN AHEAD SAYS STOP BUT WE
STILL STUBBORNLY HEAD ON.

We would say our love is unconditional. But if it really is, then we
should never feel bad. But why do we get frustrated when love turns sour? Because we still subconsciously seek acceptance and assurance from the people we care about.

“BEING IN LOVE CAN BE THE MOST WONDERFUL THING WE
COULD EXPERIENCE BUT IF THE FEELING BEGINS TO CONSUME OUR WHOLE BEINGS, THEN WE HAVE TO STOP AND LET OUR MINDS AND NOT OUR HEARTS DICTATE OUR ACTIONS. ONLY WHEN WE LEARN TO ACCEPT OUR FATE AND UNDERSTAND THE MEANING OF OUR FAILURES CAN WE TRULY GO ON WITH LIFE WITHOUT HAVING TO LOOK BACK AND CRY OVER THE THINGS THAT COULD HAVE BEEN BUT WILL NEVER BE…”

January 18, 2019

When Mr Right comes at the wrong time – Janice Wong

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 2:26 pm

“Life is a series of pulls back and forth. You want to do one thing, but you are bound to do something else. Something hurts you, yet you know it shouldn’t. You take certain things for granted, even when you know you should never take any thing for granted. ”
“A tension of opposites, like a pull on a rubber band. And most of us live somewhere in the middle.”
“A wrestling match.”
“which side wins?”
“Love wins. Love always wins.”
– Morrie Schwartz

A real life experience taken from a news article, posted by saving bond and reposted here………cos lot of relationships are caught in-between this tension of opposites………..
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When Mr Right comes at the wrong time
Timing is everything, even in love. And when you are not ready to commit, you could end up regretting it

By Janice Wong

SOMETIMES, timing rather than love decides who we end up being with – or without.

Only some lucky people marry the loves of their lives. The rest marry the most suitable person who comes along when they are ready to settle down.

A friend in his 20s came to this conclusion after confiding in me that he had recently met a woman who is more attractive than his wife, and so occupies his thoughts more often than his wife does.

‘If only I had met her before I got married,’ he said wistfully.
But I think even if the love of one’s life appears when one is single, one may not be in the right frame of mind to recognise him or her as such. And then love passes by.

Life is littered with near misses and lost opportunities.
I attended my ex-boyfriend’s wedding last month, which triggered many memories.

We met five years ago when I was 23 and he 31. It was love at first sight. He had an established career, was down-to-earth and steadfastly religious. I was then working as an air stewardess and my head was – literally and metaphorically – in the clouds.

I was also – well, let’s put it this way – not religious.
Despite our differences, we were soulmates. We had the same quirky sense of humour and shared long, intense overnight conversations.

But human nature is perverse. When someone is excessively nice to us, we start taking things for granted, instead of appreciating them even more. My ex sent me to the airport, fixed my PC, reminded me to take health supplements – and go to church.

He had everything I could want in a husband – except that I was not looking for one. A boyfriend was all I could cope with then.
I loved fast cars, danced wildly at Zouk and took off on shopping holidays at a whim. My life revolved around I, me and myself.

In the six months that we were together, he popped the question several times and talked ad nauseam about having children. He wanted us to enrol for a Christian marriage preparation course.

Yes, I did often fantasise about a Vera Wang wedding gown, but I was at that stage of my life when I was more interested in Guess than Baby Guess.

And where – dare I admit it? – I still wanted to meet other men.
So I was a 23-year-old with the emotional maturity of a 13-year-old.

Responsibility? Wasn’t that for adults?

In short, I met Mr Right at the wrong time.

The more he talked about marriage and religion, the more I felt pressured and the more pressured I felt, the more irritable I became.

I was too impatient to compromise. Every trivial matter blew up as a big deal. My mood obliterated the good in our relationship and reached a point where I just wanted out.

He was heartbroken; I was sad but relieved. He still called me regularly, beseeching me to change my mind.The calls stopped finally after a year. Now and then, we say ‘Hi’ via e-mail.
I had a few painful relationships after that. Served me right, as those rude wake-up calls were necessary for me to realise the meaninglessness of my hedonistic high life. I missed the tenderness of my ex and began having second thoughts.

Perhaps I also felt more urgency to find someone marriageable before my biological clock reached zero hour. It dawned on me that I am not a pixie like Peter Pan who can flirt around forever. One day, I’d wake up sick and alone when my fair weather friends flit away.

But I was too proud and too unsure of my ex’s reaction to call him until last year. The first thing he told me excitedly was that he had found The One. My heart tumbled to my feet. So, that’s Fate.
If only I could turn back time. If only I had met him later. If only… what feeble words.

These days, I am more circumspect. I have come to terms with my loss. There is nothing I can do about timing, but I can do everything about my choices.

Sometimes, when the nights get lonely, I toy with the idea of marrying a platonic friend of mine, who often assures me earnestly that, if the worst comes to the worst, he’d be willing to marry me.

But I always dismiss that. I have already made one mistake. I should not make another by settling for second best merely for the sake of getting hitched – only to regret it soon after, as the guy who confided in me did.

Hopefully, the best is not over but yet to be.

December 11, 2018

Just Take My Heart – Mr. Big

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 11:09 am

It’s late at night and neither one of us is sleeping
I can’t imagine living my life after you’re gone
Wondering why so many questions have no answers
I keep on searching for the reason why we went wrong

Where is our yesterday
You and I could use it right now
But if this is goodbye

Just take my heart when you go
I don’t have the need for it anymore
I’ll always love you, but you’re too hard to hold
Just take my heart when you go

Here we are about to take the final step now
I just can’t fool myself, I know there’s no turning back
Face to face it’s been an endless conversation
But when the love is gone you’re left with nothing but talk

I’d give my everything
If only I could turn you around
But if this is goodbye

Just take my heart when you go
I don’t have the need for it anymore
I’ll always love you, but you’re too hard to hold
Just take my heart when you go

December 10, 2018

Porque – Maldita

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 1:08 pm

[VERSE 1]
Tulala lang sa ‘king kuwarto
At nagmumuni-muni
Ang tanong sa ‘king sarili
Sa’n ako nagkamali?

[REFRAIN]
Bakit sa’yo pa nagkagusto?
Parang bula ika’y naglaho…

[CHORUS]
Porque contigo yo ya escoji?
Ahora mi corazon ta sufri
Bien simple lang I yo tapidi
Era cin ti tu el cosa yo ya cin ti…

Tapidi milagro
Vira’l tiempo
El mali hace derecho
Na di mio reso
Tapidi yo
Era ol vida yo contigo…

[VERSE 2]
Ang lahat ay binigay ko
Ngayon ay sising-sisi
Sobra-sobra ang parusa
Di alam kung kaya pa…

[REFRAIN]
Bakit sa’yo pa nagkagusto?
Parang bula ika’y naglaho…

[CHORUS]
Porque contigo yo ya escoji?
Ahora mi corazon ta sufri
Bien simple lang I yo tapidi
Era cin ti tu el cosa yo ya cin ti…

Tapidi milagro
Vira’l tiempo
El mali hace derecho
Na di mio reso
Tapidi yo
Era ol vida yo contigo…

[BRIDGE]
Huwag nang lumapit, o tumawag pa
At baka masampal lang kita
Di babalikan, magsisi ka man
Ako ay lisanin…

Porque contigo yo ya escoji?
Ahora mi corazon ta sufri
Bien simple lang I yo tapidi
Era cin ti tu el cosa yo ya cin ti…

[CODA]
Bakit ikaw pa ang napili?
Ngayon ang puso ko ay sawi
Kay simple lang ng aking hiling
Na madama mo rin ang pait at pighati…

Sana’y magmilagro
Mabalik ko
Mali ay mai-diretso
‘Pinagdarasal ko
Sa ‘king puso
Na mabura ka sa isip ko…

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