`Sugar Coated Delusions`

December 11, 2018

Just Take My Heart – Mr. Big

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 11:09 am

It’s late at night and neither one of us is sleeping
I can’t imagine living my life after you’re gone
Wondering why so many questions have no answers
I keep on searching for the reason why we went wrong

Where is our yesterday
You and I could use it right now
But if this is goodbye

Just take my heart when you go
I don’t have the need for it anymore
I’ll always love you, but you’re too hard to hold
Just take my heart when you go

Here we are about to take the final step now
I just can’t fool myself, I know there’s no turning back
Face to face it’s been an endless conversation
But when the love is gone you’re left with nothing but talk

I’d give my everything
If only I could turn you around
But if this is goodbye

Just take my heart when you go
I don’t have the need for it anymore
I’ll always love you, but you’re too hard to hold
Just take my heart when you go

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December 10, 2018

Porque – Maldita

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 1:08 pm

[VERSE 1]
Tulala lang sa ‘king kuwarto
At nagmumuni-muni
Ang tanong sa ‘king sarili
Sa’n ako nagkamali?

[REFRAIN]
Bakit sa’yo pa nagkagusto?
Parang bula ika’y naglaho…

[CHORUS]
Porque contigo yo ya escoji?
Ahora mi corazon ta sufri
Bien simple lang I yo tapidi
Era cin ti tu el cosa yo ya cin ti…

Tapidi milagro
Vira’l tiempo
El mali hace derecho
Na di mio reso
Tapidi yo
Era ol vida yo contigo…

[VERSE 2]
Ang lahat ay binigay ko
Ngayon ay sising-sisi
Sobra-sobra ang parusa
Di alam kung kaya pa…

[REFRAIN]
Bakit sa’yo pa nagkagusto?
Parang bula ika’y naglaho…

[CHORUS]
Porque contigo yo ya escoji?
Ahora mi corazon ta sufri
Bien simple lang I yo tapidi
Era cin ti tu el cosa yo ya cin ti…

Tapidi milagro
Vira’l tiempo
El mali hace derecho
Na di mio reso
Tapidi yo
Era ol vida yo contigo…

[BRIDGE]
Huwag nang lumapit, o tumawag pa
At baka masampal lang kita
Di babalikan, magsisi ka man
Ako ay lisanin…

Porque contigo yo ya escoji?
Ahora mi corazon ta sufri
Bien simple lang I yo tapidi
Era cin ti tu el cosa yo ya cin ti…

[CODA]
Bakit ikaw pa ang napili?
Ngayon ang puso ko ay sawi
Kay simple lang ng aking hiling
Na madama mo rin ang pait at pighati…

Sana’y magmilagro
Mabalik ko
Mali ay mai-diretso
‘Pinagdarasal ko
Sa ‘king puso
Na mabura ka sa isip ko…

December 5, 2018

Meantime Guy

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 5:07 pm

*orig post: http://mframa.tumblr.com/post/3120227611/meantime-boy

He’s the one that drunk dials you late at night saying that he loves you over and over again until 3 in the morning. He means it but you know too well he’ll never admit it. He’s the one that makes it seem alright that your jerk boyfriend is cheating on you. He’s the one you love but not really “in” love with. You know the one who’s just there in the meantime.

He’s the one you were with on that night you swore never happened.

He’s just chill, doesn’t pressure you with commitment. He doesn’t make a fuss when you go out to party with your girlfriends. And when you get piss drunk, he’s there to drive you home and hold your hair when you vomit.

You don’t have to pretend that you’re cool because he knows how much of a dork you really are.

You don’t have to be made up and all poised around him because you know that he’d hang out with you even if you had the flu and you spent 3 days in the same pair of pajamas being smelly and unbathed with snot spewing from your swollen nose. Which he actually did while also bringing you DVDs and KFC.

It doesn’t bother you that he goes out with other girls or at least you pretend that it doesn’t. Yet you do, however, manage to point out every single flaw she has and how she’s not the right girl for him. And when he asks you who would be right for him you’d describe a girl pretty muchl like yourself but you’d never imply that it might be you.

You tell him that he’s a great guy and that he’d make some girl really happy someday just like how you pretend to be happy with your cheating ass jerk boyfriend.

And when you finally break up, he’d cancel a hot date just to be there to soak up your tears and listen to you rant about how stupid you are. To which he would agree but at the same time making you feel like it was alright to be stupid sometimes. He’d stay with you until the sun rises and until your tears dry up. He’d stay and keep you company everyday bringing you all sorts of food just to help you cope with your heart ache. And he would not care if you had gained weight or that you’ve lost all reason to shave your legs.

He’d be the first one to comment on the hundred emo notes you post on facebook just so you know someone had read them and that you’d feel that someone cared.

He’ll be there through all your unwarranted drama.

He’ll be there until you get over your jerk ex-boyfriend.

And when you finally do, he’d still be there until you find another jerk boyfriend to make you pretend to be happy.

You’re not exactly sure about how he feels about you because he never does or says anything clear. So you stay with your new jerk boyfriend. You go on with your life convincing yourself that you are the lucky one and that you are better off and happy.

But then late at night. When you know you should be sleeping.

You find yourself staying awake until 3 in the morning waiting for his call just to hear him drunkenly say that he loves you.

This Time – Freestyle

Filed under: Main — rhycel @ 11:06 am

Oh I’m sorry, girl, for causing you much pain
Didn’t mean to make you cry, make your efforts all in vain

And I apologize for all the things I’ve done
You were loving me so much but all I did was let you down

Oh, I really don’t know, just what to say
All I know is that I want you to stay

This time, I’m not gonna let you slip away
This time, I’m not gonna let another day go by
Without holding you so tight
Without treating you so right
This time, I’m not gonna let go of your love
This time, I promise you that we’ll rise above it all

And I will never let you fall
I’m gonna give you my all, this time

Oh, I never thought that I was hurting you
Now I know that I was wrong, now I know just what to do

Gonna try to be the best that I could be
All I need is one more chance to make it up to you, you’ll see

And there’s one more thing that you oughta know
All I know is that I don’t want you to go

November 26, 2018

I’ll Never Love Again – Lady Gaga (A Star Is Born)

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 3:42 pm

Wish I could, I could’ve said goodbye

I would’ve said what I wanted to

Maybe even cried for you

If I knew it would be the last time

I would’ve broke my heart in two

Tryin’ to save a part of you

Don’t wanna feel another touch

Don’t wanna start another fire

Don’t wanna know another kiss

No other name falling off my lips

Don’t wanna give my heart away

To another stranger

Or let another day begin

Won’t even let the sunlight in

No, I’ll never love again

I’ll never love again, oh, oh, oh, oh

When we first met

I never thought that I would fall

I never thought that I’d find myself

Lying in your arms

And I want to pretend that it’s not true

Oh baby, that you’re gone

‘Cause my world keeps turning, and turning, and turning

And I’m not moving on

Don’t wanna feel another touch

Don’t wanna start another fire

Don’t wanna know another kiss

No other name falling off my lips

Don’t wanna give my heart away

To another stranger

Or let another day begin

Won’t even let the sunlight in

No, I’ll never love

I don’t wanna know this feeling

Unless it’s you and me

I don’t wanna waste a moment, ooh

And I don’t wanna give somebody else the better part of me

I would rather wait for you, ooh

Don’t wanna feel another touch

Don’t wanna start another fire

Don’t wanna know another kiss

Baby, unless they are your lips

Don’t wanna give my heart away

To another stranger

Don’t let another day begin

Won’t let the sunlight in

Oh, I’ll never love again

Never love again

Never love again

Oh, I’ll never love again

 

November 21, 2018

When I was you Man – Bruno Mars

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 2:41 pm
Same bed but it feels just a little bit bigger now
Our song on the radio but it don’t sound the same
When our friends talk about you, all it does is just tear me down
‘Cause my heart breaks a little when I hear your name
It all just sounds like ooh, ooh ooh hoo hoo
Mm, too young, too dumb to realize
That I should have bought you flowers
And held your hand
Should have gave you all my hours
When I had the chance
Take you to every party ’cause all you wanted to do was dance
Now my baby’s dancing
But she’s dancing with another man
My pride, my ego, my needs, and my selfish ways
Caused a good strong woman like you to walk out my life
Now I never, never get to clean up the mess I made, oh
And it haunts me every time I close my eyes
It all
It all just sounds like ooh, ooh ooh ooh ooh
Mm, too young, too dumb to realize
That I should have bought you flowers
And held your hand
Should have gave you all my hours
When I had the chance
Take you to every party ’cause all you wanted to do was dance
Now my baby’s dancing
But she’s dancing with another man
Although it hurts
I’ll be the first to say that I was wrong
Oh, I know I’m probably much too late
To try and apologize for my mistakes
But I just want you to know
I hope he buys you flowers
I hope he holds your hand
Give you all his hours
When he has the chance
Take you to every party
‘Cause I remember how much you loved to dance
Do all the things I should have done
When I was your man
Do all the things I should have done
When I was your man

November 19, 2018

Tomorrow Never Comes – Norma Marek

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 5:11 pm

If I knew it would be the last time that I’d see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly, and pray the Lord your soul to keep.
If I knew it would be the last time that I’d see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss, and call you back for just one more.

If I knew it would be the last time I’d hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would tape each word and action, and play them back throughout my days.
If I knew it would be the last time, I would spare an extra minute or two,
To stop and say “I love you,” instead of assuming you know I do.

So, just in case tomorrow never comes, and today is all I get,
I’d like to say how much I love you, and I hope we never will forget.
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance you get to hold your loved one tight.

So, if you’re waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes, you’ll surely regret the day
That you didn’t take that extra time for a smile, a hug, or a kiss,
And you were too busy to grant someone, what turned out to be their one last wish.

So hold your loved ones close today, and whisper in their ear,
That you love them very much, and you’ll always hold them dear.
Take time to say “I’m sorry,” “Please forgive me,” “thank you” or “it’s okay”.

And if tomorrow never comes, you’ll have no regrets about today.

April 30, 2018

The Last Script – Wong Fu Productions

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 5:56 pm

[Girl]
Hey! How many were there before me?

[Guy]
What do you mean?

[Girl]
How many girls did you love before me?

[Guy]
Love, five, I loved five women before you.

[Girl]
What were their names?

[Guy]
Who? What? When? Where? Why?

[Girl]
Can you tell me about them?

[Guy]
Who I loved was a girl from college. I wasn’t exactly close to her, but with some superficial facts and a few interactions over a semester, you know, like most guys fantasizing over a girl they barely know, I filled in the blanks like a fairy tale author. And who she became in my head, was probably more than the reality. She was a third year sorority girl. Yeah and I was an infatuated freshman, sure, but the several times we got to spend together outside of class, it really allowed me to see she also had a good heart and a bright spirit. The only problem was, so did just about every other guy. And while she turned me down nicely, I swear there were times when it seemed like the cliche sorority girl may have felt something for the typical, awkward freshman.

What I loved was an old friend, but she was much more than just a friend. We met early in college, kept in touch through the years after. We saw each other grow and change and through multiple relationships. I saw her different boyfriends come and go. She was also there for every girlfriend and breakup of mine.

Personality, humor, taste, it was all there. Her and I were almost perfect. The only thing that wasn’t perfect was our timing. We were never single at the same time. What we loved about each other was never enough to leave who we were with. This is something we eventually had to face and accept, and we had to leave behind what we had.

When I loved was my first girlfriend in high school. It’s a bit unfair because she embodies the combination of both love and youth. The feeling of young love is unique and impossible to replace or replicate because we can only be that age once. High school was a time of innocence, discovery, and adventure. We shared these three elements together in things like our first kiss, late night sneaking out, and matinee movies, all of which now have become a nostalgic love, preserved in a time neither of us can touch, but know was there. Even though we were just kids, there’s not a doubt in my mind that when we were there, we were in love.

Where I loved was the girl I met in Los Angeles. I never intended to stay there that long. It was just a six month internship after graduating. But it all changed when I met her. Soon, a year had passed, and somehow, another year after that. I couldn’t leave the city. I couldn’t leave her. Maybe it was my desire to be on my own or prove something to everyone back at home, but she helped me accomplish it over there with a relationship reflective of the city we were in, an new energy, new experiences, that really pushed me to mature more than anyone or anywhere else. When people ask what city I love the most, I say LA. The city where I lived the most.

Why I loved was a close friend of mine who passed away. She told me after she was diagnosed that death was not what saddened her the most, but the fact that she never really felt like she had fallen in love. She wouldn’t get to have them emotions, good and bad, of being hurt and of being held. After she passed, those words stuck with me the most, teaching me to see that one of the great gifts we have of being alive is the ability to give and receive and even lose love. There are so many like her, whose lives end before having any of those experiences. What a waste if we don’t strive to love in our lives. She made me understand why. Why waste this life not loving?

[Girl]
I understand now.

[Guy]
You’re the sixth.

[Girl]
Sixth, so which one am I then?

[Guy]
You’re none of them because you’re all of them. You are who I love; the girl on the pedestal, the fantasy the make-believe things that are actually true. You are what I love; the depth, the inside jokes, the best friend. You are when I love; a new history is being started with you. We are the young lovers our older selves will someday reminisce about. You are where I love: because I’d go anywhere, just to be with you. You are why I love: because before you, I didn’t truly understand what I was looking for. Now that we found each other, you’ve given my past and future meaning. You are the sixth. You are the last.

[Guy]
So, how many were there before me?

[Girl]
Five is all.

[Guy]
What were their names?

[Girl]
Who? What? When? Where? Why?

April 4, 2018

Kayla Gow ft Tropical Acoustics – Tell Me Why

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 5:03 pm

Kayla Gow ft Tropical Acoustics – Tell Me Why

 

Something ’bout the way you look at me,

There’s just something ’bout the way you smile

Its kinda like a cool breeze on a summer day

Cause with you, everything’s alright

 

Tell me ‘how you make it feel so easy

Coz with you I never had to try

And even when i’m close to tears, i laugh

Coz something about you is driving me wild

 

but when you’re looking at me, I can’t breathe,

I can’t find the words to speak.And I… I don’t know why

But with you, I flyAnd I just want you to know that

 

Chorus:

Your eyes, they spin me around and take me off the ground.

You make me feel things only you know how.

Wish you knew what you mean to me

tell myself to keep it all inside

Coz I know that you will never be mine… tell me why…

Your eyes, they spin me around and take me off the ground

You make me feel things only you know how.

And though, I know we will never be…I’ll pretend that i’m doing just fine…

Coz I know this can only end in goodbye.

 

Tell me why 2x

 

I don’t know why my heart starts to race,

It’s a mystery when you’re here with me.

Boy i’m falling and I can’t stop now

Baby please, please, please be there to catch me.

 

but when you’re looking at me, I can’t breathe,

I can’t find the words to speak.And I… I don’t know why

But with you, I fly And I just want you to know that

 

Chorus

 

Pre-Chorus:

Coz when you’re looking at me, I can’t breathe,

I can’t find the words to speak.And I… I don’t know why

But with you, I flyAnd I just want you to know that

 

Chorus:

Your eyes, they spin me around and take me off the ground.

You make me feel things only you know how.

Wish you knew what you mean to meI tell myself to keep it all inside

Because I know that you will never be mine… So tell me why…

Your eyes, they spin me around and take me off the ground

You make me feel things.

Only you know how.Wish I could finally make you see

But all you ever do is look away

So I guess there’s nothing left to say

 

Tell me why 2x

 

April 1, 2018

Strangers Again Script credits to WongFu Productions

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 10:26 am

We’re just wasting time.

And now you think I’m stupid.

You know I don’t think that, Marissa.

You don’t say it but I know you’re thinking it.

Well of course I’m thinking it right now! This whole thing is stupid!

See?

See what? It is! Who cares if I wanna leave early? Even you barely know her and you’re mad at me?

Yah! ‘Coz you think I’m annoying you!

Oh my God, this isn’t even about us! This is about your co-worker’s lame potluck that you feel obligated to go to because she has no friends. If we go, that counts! We don’t have to stay the whole four hours.

But it is about us! It’s about you understanding what’s important to me!

Eating homemade potato salad and playing the scrabble tournament is important to you?

This is stupid.

That’s what I just said!

YOU’RE stupid.

You know what, I’m willing to let that one go, can you just tell me if we can leave early or not, please?

Josh, you tell me.

*whispers* What?

Look, I’m sorry I brought it up. Can you just decide and I’ll do whatever?

No, Josh, not this time. I’m not gonna tell you what to do because you’re just gonna use it against me saying ‘I always do what you say.’ No more.

Hey, this one wasn’t my fault. There’s no reason for this.

You’re right. There is no reason for this.

It wasn’t always like this. I can’t really remember when it was but I know for sure we weren’t like this. She used to be… my unicorn. You know, unbelievable. Crazy special. The girl I thought could never exist. But, as time went on, from one stage of our relationship to the next, the path that started off so innocent and fun has taken us to that. But, like most, we started off as strangers, at Stage 1: Meeting. Thanks to a shoelace, actually.

STAGE 1: Meeting

Excuse me. Excuse me, your shoelaces are untied.

Oh! Thanks.

No prob. WhenIshudowhhp… Tsss… Woah.

I could have not planned it better even if I tried. But thank goodness the city hadn’t fixed their park trails in five years.

I didn’t tell her that it was my first time running in about nine months and somehow, we ended up going for almost five miles that day. It’s so pathetic to see how guys would do just about anything for the right girl, but it paid off because I got her number.

We really hit it off that day. I think so, at least. I blacked out for a few minutes but when I woke up, I remembered I made a pretty good connection. From that point on, we were at Stage 2: The Chase. Some say it’s the best part.

STAGE 2: The Chase

All I wanted was to know more about her.

All I wanted to do was to hang out with her.

Ready?

*sigh* Ohhhh….

The only person I wanted to talk to was her.

She was the number one priority.

What the hell, man?

And every time I saw her, butterflies.

She was everything that I thought could be perfect in a girl. And as soon as it felt right,

Would you be my girlfriend?

Yeah.

With this simple word, we began our relationship, taking us into Stage 3: The Honeymoon.

STAGE 3: The Honeymoon

Everyone calls it this, and for good reason. It was the time when we could finally fully express our affection to each other and do all the things we wanted to do as a couple. It was a dream come true. The girl I wanted to be with so, so badly was finally mine. But eventually, the fire cooled and both of us simmered down to normalcy. By the end of it all, we had a bajillion pictures with each other, knew every detail of our everyday lives, and like any normal healthy couple, we entered Stage 4: Comfortable.

STAGE 4: Comfortable

What do you wanna do tonight?

I dunno. Whatever.

Now, being comfortable isn’t necessarily bad. It’s when we could truly be ourselves. But it depends on what you do with that comfort. Some use it positively, continuing to work at their relationship and grow together, but others allow it to create distance and, for Marissa and I, it made us take each other for granted.

Hey! What are you doing? It’s Tuesday, why aren’t you dressed?

Oh, yeah. I totally forgot. Can we skip it? I don’t feel like going.

This whole thing was your idea.

I… I know. I just kinda have other things to do. Um, next week, yeah?

Alright.

*phone ringing* You’re not gonna get that?

I’ll call her back after this level. Hey watch out!

Whether it’s taking each other for granted, or people changing over time, the bottom line is, someone stops stying and feelings aren’t as strong as before. This could happen over a few months or a few years. For us, it was one and a half years when we hit Stage 5: Tolerance.

STAGE 5: Tolerance

When Marissa and I got to this stage, I couldn’t believe it and I was pretty disappointed. Somehow, the girl I was so crazy about a year ago had turned into someone who just wasn’t that special anymore. It happened so gradually that I didn’t even see it coming but there we were, just tolerating each other.

Oh gosh. Don’t even ask me about my day.

*whispers* I won’t.

I swear my co-workers are trying to get me to quit!

*rolls eyes*

Where do you want to eat tonight?

Wherever you wanna go.

Can you just decide? I asked you.

And I’m being flexible, you pick.

Oh jeez, you’re like a five-year-old, someone else has to tell you what to do.

Normally, I’m gonna let that go but I’m having a bad day, too, so

What did you just say?

Arguing is one thing but feeling dissatisfied and unhappy with the relationship is another. We tried various times to try and make changes, to fix things but, like so many couples out there, it wasn’t enough. We became one of those relationships where it wasn’t bad, but it wasn’t great. And lemme tell you, that’s never a good way to describe a relationship.

Well, I guess I’m gonna sleep now.

Okay.

Goodnight.

Night.

It wasn’t long before we were in Stage 6: Downhill.

STAGE 6: Downhill

There’s not much time left once you’re here. The effort to try make to make things work just isn’t worth it anymore. Problems continue, arguments don’t get solved… I don’t even really remember what we argued about.

I can’t talk to you right now. You’re…

Why won’t you just…

I can’t believe that y…

Well how could you jus…

What did we argue about?

Marissa and I, sad to say, are nearing the end of this stage. What’s next is what happens to everyone at some point, the end of the line, the worst stage ever. Breaking up.

STAGE 7: Breaking Up

I don’t know when it’ll happen or how, but I hope we can leave it on good, mutual terms, if that’s ever truly possible.

I think it’s for the best.

Fine.

And this is when the two of us will start a new path, one that leads right back to where we started, strangers. The change will be so drastic and so blunt that we’ll probably wanna get back together right away just to restore what’s normal.

Hello?

Hey, Marissa. I miss you.

Are you drunk?

But this does not always happen and the distance will grow. Eventually, the two of us will move on, or find someone new.

Oh my gosh. Donald. Donald! Don… Come here! Don… Who is that? Who’s she with? Tell me who that is.

I’m sorry, man.

And even when we both get over the past and try to remain friends, things will never be the same.

Josh? Hey, it is you!

Woah, Marissa!

Hi! Nice to see you.

Yeah, you too. You still running around here?

Well, when I visit home, yeah.

Visit?

Yeah, I moved up to San Francisco a couple of months ago, but I’m just here to show my boyfriend the park.

Oh, cool.

Oh, he’s here. Josh, this is Alex. Alex, Josh.

Hi.

(daydream: *punch to left eye*)

Nice to meet you, man.

Well, uhh, we should catch up some time. I’ll text you later, OK?

Sure.

Bye.

Our lives will continue on in different directions toward the inevitable end, becoming strangers again. And everything we shared will become fragments of memories from so long ago, I’ll question if it even really happened. And all that’ll be left is this, a box of random stuff from a faded period of time when this stranger was the most important person in my life. What a shame.

“This is to remind you of how hard you fell for me when we first met. Haha. Josh, I’m so glad we have each other in our lives. I know that no matter what, we’ll make it through; and we’ll always have a tomorrow together. Happy Anniversary!”

(daydream:)

Holy crap! What the hell are you doing?

Sorry, sorry. I mean… I mean, I… I’m sorry, Marissa. It’s just… It’s just a potluck. I don’t know why I’m being so difficult.

It’s… Whatever…

No, no. It’s not whatever. It’s important to us. Not the… I mean, not the potluck. This, this is important to us, to me. Let’s not do that anymore. I’m sorry, please.

Okay.

Yeah? We’re okay?

I… I’m s-sorry. I’m being dumb. I-I’m so sorry, we’re gonna be okay, yeah?

It’s alright, babe.

(backtrack: 5 months earlier, near the end of Stage 4)

Do you realize there’s only two options for our future together? It’s either we break up or we get married.

Never really thought of that.

Think we’ll get married?

Jeez, that’s a loaded question. Why? You wanna get married to me?

I don’t know right now.

Me neither.

Do you wanna break up with me?

Of course not.

Well, it’s gonna be one or the other.

What do you think will happen if we don’t end up together? Are we gonna hate each other? D’you think we’ll keep in touch?

*sigh* I think that if life separates us and we end up in totally different places, I’ll always remember when our paths aligned for this period of time… And I’ll be thankful for that. I hope that wherever you are, you’ll be thankful, too. I think that’s the best we can wish for.

May 22, 2015

Resignation – just had to keep myself a copy =).

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 12:00 am

Have forgotten where I got the original, here goes:

XXX,

After careful thought and consideration I have concluded that my core values are not aligned with the dysfunctional organizational culture currently prevailing in the company. It is time to move on to maintain my health, sanity, and overall happiness.

 This letter is to officially inform you that I resign from my position as XXXXXXXX, effective immediately.  This letter also serves as my exit interview.

 During one of my recruitment interview HR, asked me what I needed to be successful. I replied, “clear direction and strong leadership.”

 I received neither.

 Originally, I believed the biggest challenge in the company would stem from a lack of systems. However, I quickly realized that inflated egos, office politics and administrative incompetence would prove to be bigger obstacles. These dynamics are not conducive to innovation and productivity.

 Due to ambiguous policies and procedures and the inconsistent application and enforcement of both, I was deprived of fair and equitable treatment. Additionally, I have been reprimanded for fabricated, unsubstantiated claims regarding my performance and behavior. I hardly think that a statement from one person constitutes a fair and thorough investigation.

Fortunately for me, I know my worth and I am very well aware of the value I bring to a team. I refuse to settle for any form of disrespect or maltreatment, particularly from individuals whose only credibility resides in their job title as opposed to demonstrated excellence and leadership.

 I’m positive my experience isn’t an isolated one. The turnover rates and lack of employee engagement and satisfaction are further evidence of the bank’s inability to attract, develop and retain talent.

 I had a goal to brand the company as an employer of choice in our community. Unfortunately, it became abundantly clear to me that I would be out of integrity to attempt to attract employees to such a toxic and dysfunctional work place.I refuse to convince professionals to work for a more than a 100 year old company that operates like a start-up rampant with nepotism and cronyism.

 

Regards,

XXX

 

March 4, 2014

5 Signs It’s Time to Quit Your Job

Filed under: Main — Tags: , , , , — melfabro @ 11:12 pm

There will be instances when you feel like you’re starting to dislike your job. This is normal especially if you’ve been doing it for a time. There’s nothing wrong with occasionally not liking your job but when the feeling becomes deeper and dislike turns to disdain, chances are, it’s time to submit your resignation letter.

It takes more than wishing you’re doing something else to determine when it’s time to say goodbye. It takes even longer to get to a point where quitting becomes a viable option.  There are telltale signs it’s time and it takes a certain level of awareness to understand what the signs mean and where it leads. So when do you know it’s time?

  1.  You’re Distracted All Throughout the Day

There will always be those times when your mind just isn’t in your job and that’s perfectly normal.  What isn’t, is when you’re distracted all throughout the day – even when it’s not during a holiday – every day of the workweek. When your mind wanders even if you have lots of work on your plate, then you have a problem.

More importantly, if you’re too distracted to get any work done and you know you’re losing the company money but feel indifferent about it, chances are, it’s time to quit. Remember that if you actually like what you’re doing, you’d feel guilty wasting precious company time and resources so do yourself a favor and quit while you’re ahead.

  1.  You Dread Mondays but Always Look Forward to Fridays

Mondays are always a drag but it’s when you start feeling that Fridays are taking so long to arrive and that weekends pass by in a blur that it may be time to throw in the towel. Also, if you’re unable to enjoy your weekend because you’re worrying too much about Monday approaching, then it’s seriously time to move on.

Weekends are supposed to be spent relaxing, enjoying, and just doing things you are unable to do during the work week. If you can’t relax simply because the looming Monday has already cast its dark shadow, you’re better off finding another job, one that’ll make you look forward to Monday rather than dread it. Lastly, if you’re beginning to take off one day a week to shorten what you perceive as a long work week, it would be modest to quit rather than be terminated due to excessive absences.

  1.  Your Values No Longer Align with the Company

This one’s easy and is perhaps the clearest sign that it’s time to leave. This is also the only sign you can use during your interview with another company that won’t jeopardize your chances of being considered for the job posting.

When your values no longer align with the company you begin to doubt everything they tell you. Professional lines start to blur and you begin to drift away from the company greatly affecting your work performance. In order to be at your most productive professionally, it is important that you believe in the goal you and the company is working hard to achieve.  If you realize that your values no longer match those of your employers’, it’s time to move on.

  1.  You Forget About the Company the Moment You Step Out of the Office

The company you work for is an extension of your personal life. People who love what they’re doing think about how much value they can add to their work even after they’re out of the office. They think about what they want to do the next day and plan what they’re going to achieve tomorrow. If your mind shuts off immediately after you leave the office, then it may be time to go.

You don’t need to think about work every time but it’s when you don’t think about it at all that you should start worrying. If you’re looking at work as just work, then that’s exactly what happens. Perhaps it’s time to find out what you’re really passionate about and go after it rather than remain working in a company that’s giving you a hard time performing at your best.

  1.  You Talk About Work Negatively and Relish Talking to Other People About it

Surely, there are people in the office complaining about how their work sucks. You’ve probably met them before and avoided them like plague so that office drama does not rub on you. When you start becoming like them and actually enjoy hanging around with them just so you can complain, whine, and rant about work, then it’s time to bid them and the company goodbye.

Negativity in the workplace has never been good.  It will drag you down and prevent you from doing everything you can to get things done. Before you even realize it, you’d bring it with you even outside the office.  You’d start talking about it to family members, friends, and even people who’d care to listen. That isn’t healthy and you’re better off spending your energy doing something somewhere else.

The decision to quit your job and pursue something you’re passionate about is not something you make lightly. There are, of course, other factors you need to consider and the signs mentioned above are just catalysts to help you make a decision sooner.

Your attitude towards work will ultimately be your gauge on whether you really need to quit. You can try changing your perception about work and see if it changes anything. If not, then it’s time to look and explore other opportunities out there for you.

Source: http://sg.jobsdb.com/SG/EN/Resources/JobSeekerArticle/5-signs-its-time-to-quit-job?ID=2711

February 8, 2014

Is the Grass REALLY Always Greener?

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 1:52 pm

Single people ache for marriage

Married people, to be single

Poor people want the luxuries of the rich

The rich, the simplicity of the poor

Light skinned long for dark

Dark skinned long for light

The jobless hurt for work

The working despise the jobs they have

Young people can’t wait to age

While the old wish they could go back

It almost seems

There’s no point in longing

Perhaps the solution

Is to try to be more content

Where you ARE

And somehow

Not let it get in the way

Of where you’re GOING

– Nathan Allen

http://www.idreamedofthis.com/2013/12/10/is-the-grass-really-always-greener/

November 30, 2013

Six Two Eight

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 10:02 pm

by Europe released, I think 1985….

Suddenly missed the 80’s hehe

July 20, 2013

What about now – Daughtry

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 2:37 am

Shadows fill an empty heart
As love is fading,
From all the things that we are
But are not saying.
Can we see beyond the scars
And make it to the dawn?
Change the colors of the sky.
And open up to
The ways you made me feel alive,
The ways I loved you.
For all the things that never died,
To make it through the night,
Love will find you.
What about now?
What about today?
What if you’re making me all that I was meant to be?
What if our love never went away?
What if it’s lost behind words we could never find?
Baby, before it’s too late,
What about now?
The sun is breaking in your eyes
To start a new day.
This broken heart can still survive
With a touch of your grace.
Shadows fade into the light.
I am by your side,
Where love will find you.
What about now?
What about today?
What if you’re making me all that I was meant to be?
What if our love, it never went away?
What if it’s lost behind words we could never find?
Baby, before it’s too late,
What about now?
Now that we’re here,
Now that we’ve come this far,
Just hold on.
There is nothing to fear,
For I am right beside you.
For all my life,
I am yours.
What about now?
What about today?
What if you’re making me all that I was meant to be?
What if our love never went away?
What if it’s lost behind words we could never find?
What about now?
What about today?
What if you’re making me all that I was meant to be?
What if our love never went away?
What if it’s lost behind words we could never find?
Baby, before it’s too late,
Baby, before it’s too late,
Baby, before it’s too late,
What about now ?

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