`Sugar Coated Delusions`

May 22, 2015

Resignation – just had to keep myself a copy =).

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 12:00 am

Have forgotten where I got the original, here goes:


After careful thought and consideration I have concluded that my core values are not aligned with the dysfunctional organizational culture currently prevailing in the company. It is time to move on to maintain my health, sanity, and overall happiness.

 This letter is to officially inform you that I resign from my position as XXXXXXXX, effective immediately.  This letter also serves as my exit interview.

 During one of my recruitment interview HR, asked me what I needed to be successful. I replied, “clear direction and strong leadership.”

 I received neither.

 Originally, I believed the biggest challenge in the company would stem from a lack of systems. However, I quickly realized that inflated egos, office politics and administrative incompetence would prove to be bigger obstacles. These dynamics are not conducive to innovation and productivity.

 Due to ambiguous policies and procedures and the inconsistent application and enforcement of both, I was deprived of fair and equitable treatment. Additionally, I have been reprimanded for fabricated, unsubstantiated claims regarding my performance and behavior. I hardly think that a statement from one person constitutes a fair and thorough investigation.

Fortunately for me, I know my worth and I am very well aware of the value I bring to a team. I refuse to settle for any form of disrespect or maltreatment, particularly from individuals whose only credibility resides in their job title as opposed to demonstrated excellence and leadership.

 I’m positive my experience isn’t an isolated one. The turnover rates and lack of employee engagement and satisfaction are further evidence of the bank’s inability to attract, develop and retain talent.

 I had a goal to brand the company as an employer of choice in our community. Unfortunately, it became abundantly clear to me that I would be out of integrity to attempt to attract employees to such a toxic and dysfunctional work place.I refuse to convince professionals to work for a more than a 100 year old company that operates like a start-up rampant with nepotism and cronyism.






March 4, 2014

5 Signs It’s Time to Quit Your Job

Filed under: Main — Tags: , , , , — melfabro @ 11:12 pm

There will be instances when you feel like you’re starting to dislike your job. This is normal especially if you’ve been doing it for a time. There’s nothing wrong with occasionally not liking your job but when the feeling becomes deeper and dislike turns to disdain, chances are, it’s time to submit your resignation letter.

It takes more than wishing you’re doing something else to determine when it’s time to say goodbye. It takes even longer to get to a point where quitting becomes a viable option.  There are telltale signs it’s time and it takes a certain level of awareness to understand what the signs mean and where it leads. So when do you know it’s time?

  1.  You’re Distracted All Throughout the Day

There will always be those times when your mind just isn’t in your job and that’s perfectly normal.  What isn’t, is when you’re distracted all throughout the day – even when it’s not during a holiday – every day of the workweek. When your mind wanders even if you have lots of work on your plate, then you have a problem.

More importantly, if you’re too distracted to get any work done and you know you’re losing the company money but feel indifferent about it, chances are, it’s time to quit. Remember that if you actually like what you’re doing, you’d feel guilty wasting precious company time and resources so do yourself a favor and quit while you’re ahead.

  1.  You Dread Mondays but Always Look Forward to Fridays

Mondays are always a drag but it’s when you start feeling that Fridays are taking so long to arrive and that weekends pass by in a blur that it may be time to throw in the towel. Also, if you’re unable to enjoy your weekend because you’re worrying too much about Monday approaching, then it’s seriously time to move on.

Weekends are supposed to be spent relaxing, enjoying, and just doing things you are unable to do during the work week. If you can’t relax simply because the looming Monday has already cast its dark shadow, you’re better off finding another job, one that’ll make you look forward to Monday rather than dread it. Lastly, if you’re beginning to take off one day a week to shorten what you perceive as a long work week, it would be modest to quit rather than be terminated due to excessive absences.

  1.  Your Values No Longer Align with the Company

This one’s easy and is perhaps the clearest sign that it’s time to leave. This is also the only sign you can use during your interview with another company that won’t jeopardize your chances of being considered for the job posting.

When your values no longer align with the company you begin to doubt everything they tell you. Professional lines start to blur and you begin to drift away from the company greatly affecting your work performance. In order to be at your most productive professionally, it is important that you believe in the goal you and the company is working hard to achieve.  If you realize that your values no longer match those of your employers’, it’s time to move on.

  1.  You Forget About the Company the Moment You Step Out of the Office

The company you work for is an extension of your personal life. People who love what they’re doing think about how much value they can add to their work even after they’re out of the office. They think about what they want to do the next day and plan what they’re going to achieve tomorrow. If your mind shuts off immediately after you leave the office, then it may be time to go.

You don’t need to think about work every time but it’s when you don’t think about it at all that you should start worrying. If you’re looking at work as just work, then that’s exactly what happens. Perhaps it’s time to find out what you’re really passionate about and go after it rather than remain working in a company that’s giving you a hard time performing at your best.

  1.  You Talk About Work Negatively and Relish Talking to Other People About it

Surely, there are people in the office complaining about how their work sucks. You’ve probably met them before and avoided them like plague so that office drama does not rub on you. When you start becoming like them and actually enjoy hanging around with them just so you can complain, whine, and rant about work, then it’s time to bid them and the company goodbye.

Negativity in the workplace has never been good.  It will drag you down and prevent you from doing everything you can to get things done. Before you even realize it, you’d bring it with you even outside the office.  You’d start talking about it to family members, friends, and even people who’d care to listen. That isn’t healthy and you’re better off spending your energy doing something somewhere else.

The decision to quit your job and pursue something you’re passionate about is not something you make lightly. There are, of course, other factors you need to consider and the signs mentioned above are just catalysts to help you make a decision sooner.

Your attitude towards work will ultimately be your gauge on whether you really need to quit. You can try changing your perception about work and see if it changes anything. If not, then it’s time to look and explore other opportunities out there for you.

Source: http://sg.jobsdb.com/SG/EN/Resources/JobSeekerArticle/5-signs-its-time-to-quit-job?ID=2711

February 8, 2014

Is the Grass REALLY Always Greener?

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 1:52 pm

Single people ache for marriage

Married people, to be single

Poor people want the luxuries of the rich

The rich, the simplicity of the poor

Light skinned long for dark

Dark skinned long for light

The jobless hurt for work

The working despise the jobs they have

Young people can’t wait to age

While the old wish they could go back

It almost seems

There’s no point in longing

Perhaps the solution

Is to try to be more content

Where you ARE

And somehow

Not let it get in the way

Of where you’re GOING

– Nathan Allen


November 30, 2013

Six Two Eight

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 10:02 pm

by Europe released, I think 1985….

Suddenly missed the 80’s hehe

July 20, 2013

What about now – Daughtry

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 2:37 am

Shadows fill an empty heart
As love is fading,
From all the things that we are
But are not saying.
Can we see beyond the scars
And make it to the dawn?
Change the colors of the sky.
And open up to
The ways you made me feel alive,
The ways I loved you.
For all the things that never died,
To make it through the night,
Love will find you.
What about now?
What about today?
What if you’re making me all that I was meant to be?
What if our love never went away?
What if it’s lost behind words we could never find?
Baby, before it’s too late,
What about now?
The sun is breaking in your eyes
To start a new day.
This broken heart can still survive
With a touch of your grace.
Shadows fade into the light.
I am by your side,
Where love will find you.
What about now?
What about today?
What if you’re making me all that I was meant to be?
What if our love, it never went away?
What if it’s lost behind words we could never find?
Baby, before it’s too late,
What about now?
Now that we’re here,
Now that we’ve come this far,
Just hold on.
There is nothing to fear,
For I am right beside you.
For all my life,
I am yours.
What about now?
What about today?
What if you’re making me all that I was meant to be?
What if our love never went away?
What if it’s lost behind words we could never find?
What about now?
What about today?
What if you’re making me all that I was meant to be?
What if our love never went away?
What if it’s lost behind words we could never find?
Baby, before it’s too late,
Baby, before it’s too late,
Baby, before it’s too late,
What about now ?

June 16, 2013

Iris – goo goo dolls

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 11:34 am

Pretty in Punk – Fall out boy

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 11:08 am

June 15, 2013

Every man has some reminiscenceswhich he would not

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 11:03 am

Every man has some reminiscences

which he would not tell to everyone

but only to his friends.


He has others which he would not reveal

even to his friends, but only to himself,

and that in secret.


But finally

there are still others which a man is even afraid to tell 

to himself,

and every decent man has a considerable number

of such things stored away.


That is, one can even say

that the more decent he is,

the greater the number of such things in his mind

– Fyodor Dostoyevsky Notes from the Underground

On Neglect by J. Johnson

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 10:05 am


People do what people actually want to do. This simple statement holds itself to be true in 99% of peoples lives. If a person really wants to do a certain thing, and they have their heart set on it, then more than likely they will accomplish it. This especially holds true in a lot of relationships you may encounter, if you haven’t already encountered it. When someone doesn’t show up when they say they will, always cancels plans, or just doesn’t come around even though they have ample opportunity to, chances are they really don’t want to be a part of your life.

Realizing and accepting this may be a very hard pill to swallow, but is essential for ones happiness. To combat this it is essential that you cut the people out of your life who make no time for you when they have the opportunities to. Doing so will free your mind eventually, and will also free your calendar. Now you have time to spend with someone who wants to spend that time with you as much as you want with them. Starting new relationships may seem difficult at first, but change is an essential function of life. We must embrace change and let the things go in our lives that are broken, and that have no possible way of being fixed. You ultimately can’t make someone make time for you, so it is imperative that you find someone who has no qualms with and that is enthusiastic about you, and vice versa.

 If someone wants to be a part of your life, they’ll make an effort to be in it. Don’t bother reserving a space in your heart for someone who doesn’t make an effort to stay. 


May 27, 2013

What is Heartache?

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 3:19 pm

Heartache is feeling all the love
you could possibly possess for that one person and at the same time know
that the feelings are not mutual.

Heartache is having that feeling of anticipation crushed down when you see him/her and know that you cant have him/her.

Heartache is trying to be a good friend and listen to him/her express his own feelings of love…..for someone else.

Heartache is him/her coming to you for relationship advice and you trying with all your power not to give him/her advice that will surely demolish his/her current relationship.

Heartache is wanting so desperately to
grab him/her and give him/her one of those huge fireworks exploding,
academy-award winning kiss;
would only happen in a movie
because he/she loves somebody else kisses…..but you know you cant.

Heartache is forcing your body to play dead towards him/her so as to not give
any true feeling away,
even though the deafening sound of your heart beating out his/her name is driving you insane.

Heartache is having to tell someone who just asked who that guy/girl you were walking with was…

“ohh him/her, we’re just friends”,
while inside you cry and
whisper “that’s all we’ll ever be”

I’ll be there – The Escape Club

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 11:12 am

I can hear the song playing somewhere in Makan Sutra as me and my family was chilling at the Starbucks near the Merlion on the night of the 24th…coincidentally one of my favorite songs.

Such a simple, beautiful song with a deep meaning. I want this played on my funeral hehe..

May 17, 2013

Black – Pearl Jam

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 12:37 am

…I know someday you’ll have a beautiful life, I know you’ll be a sun in somebody else’s sky…


April 2, 2013


Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 10:14 pm

Lesson 1: Naked Wife
A man is getting into the shower just as his wife is finishing up her shower when the doorbell rings. The wife quickly wraps herself in a towel and runs downstairs. When she opens the door, there stands Bob, the next door neighbor. Before she says a word, Bob says, “I’ll give you $800 to drop that towel.” After thinking for a moment, the woman drops her towel and stands naked in front of Bob.

After a few seconds, Bob hands her $800 dollars and leaves. The woman wraps back up in the towel and goes back upstairs. When she gets to the bathroom, her husband asks,…

“Who was that?” “It was Bob the next door neighbor,” she replies. “Great!” the husband says, “Did he say anything about the $800 he owes me?”

Moral of the story:
If you share critical information pertaining to credit and risk with your shareholders in time, you may be in a position to prevent avoidable exposure.

Lesson 2:
A sales rep, an administration clerk, and the manager are walking to lunch when they find an antique oil lamp. They rub it and a Genie comes out. The Genie says, “I’ll give each of you just one wish” “Me first! Me first!” says the administration clerk. “I want to be in the Bahamas, driving a speedboat, without a care in the world.” Poof! She’s gone. “Me next! Me next!” says the sales rep. “I want to be in Hawaii,relaxing on the beach with my personal masseuse, an endless supply of Pina Coladas and the love of my life.” Poof! He’s gone. “OK, you’re up,” the Genie says to the manager. The manager says, “I want those two back in the office after lunch.”

Moral of the story: Always let your boss have the first say.

Lesson 3:
A priest offered a lift to a Nun. She got in and crossed her legs, forcing her gown to reveal a leg. The priest nearly had an accident. After controlling the car, he stealthily slid his hand up her leg. The nun said,”Father, remember Psalm 129?” The priest removed his hand. But,changing gears, he let his hand slide up her leg again. The nun once again said, “Father, remember Psalm 129?” The priest apologized “Sorry sister but the flesh is weak.” Arriving at the convent, the nun went on her way. On his arrival at the church, the priest rushed to look up Psalm 129. It said, “Go forth and seek, further up, you will find glory.”

Moral of the story: If you are not well informed in your job, you might miss a great opportunity.

Lesson 4:
A crow was sitting on a tree, doing nothing all day. A rabbit asked him,”Can I also sit like you and do nothing all day long?” The crow answered: “Sure, why not.” So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the crow, and rested.

…A fox jumped on the rabbit and ate it.

Moral of the story: To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very high up.

Lesson 5: Power of Charisma
A turkey was chatting with a bull “I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree,” sighed the turkey, but I haven’t got the energy.” “Well, why don’t you nibble on my droppings?” replied the bull. “They’re packed with nutrients.” The turkey pecked at a lump of dung and found that it gave him enough strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree. The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fourth night, there he was proudly perched at the top of the tree. Soon he was spotted by a farmer, who shot the turkey out of the tree.

Moral of the story: Bullshit might get you to the top, but it wont keep you there.

Lesson 6:
A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold the bird froze and fell to the ground into a large field. While he was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him. As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to realize how warm he was. The dung was actually thawing him out! He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy. A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him.

Moral of the story:
1. Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy
2. Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend
3. And when you’re in deep shit, it’s best to keep your mouth shut!

March 6, 2013

5 Fav Hitch Quotes

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 5:28 pm

Got this somewhere but lost the link…

1.”Never lie, steal, cheat, or drink. But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love. If you must steal, steal away from bad company. If you must cheat, cheat death. And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away.” – Hitch. Sara asks Hitch what they should toast too, and he responds with one of the best “Hitch” movie quotes. The quote is a sentimental life lesson that can ring true for anyone. It is such a good line that people can use it in their own life by putting it in a card, or saying it in a toast.

2.”One dance, one look, one kiss, that’s all we get, Albert. Just one shot, to make the difference between “happily ever after” and “Oh? He’s just some guy I went to some thing with once.” – Hitch. Hitch says this quote to Albert while he is teaching him how to properly kiss. Albert does not think he needs a lesson on kissing, and Hitch responds with one of the best “Hitch” movie quotes. It is a true statement about how people often do not give second chances, so always put your best effort forward. If someone tries to teach you something, take it in and do not complain because you never know how it could enhance your life.

3.”You’re sending all the right signals-no earrings, heels under two inches, your hair is pulled back, you’re wearing reading glasses with no book, drinking a Grey Goose martini, which means you had a hell of a week and a beer just wouldn’t do it. And if that wasn’t clear enough, there’s always the “fuck off” sign that you have stamped on your forehead.” – Hitch. One of the best “Hitch” movie quotes is the line Hitch uses to pick up Sara in a bar. Upon seeing Sara wave away another man who uses a cheesy line, Hitch takes a shot by being brutally honest. Not only was it endearing to hear Hitch try and pick her up with honesty, but the last sentience of the quote is laugh out loud funny. In the end, the line got him the girl.

4.”(Showing Hitch his dance moves) Do the Q-tip! Q-tip! Now throw it away! Now what am I doing? I’m makin a pizza!” – Albert. While Hitch teaches Albert to dance, Albert takes the opportunity to show off his own moves. Albert has some unique dance moves that include mimicking cleaning his ears, and making a pizza. One of the best “Hitch” movie quotes because it is hilarious watching Albert perform the dance moves while saying what each one is called. At the end of the movie he performs the same dance moves at his wedding.

5.”So how does it happen, great love? Nobody knows … but what I can tell you is that it happens in the blink of an eye. One moment you’re enjoying your life, and the next you’re wondering how you ever lived without them.” – Hitch. One of the best “Hitch” movie quotes are powerful words of wisdom. The truthful quote is great because no one really knows how falling in love happens, but it does all the time. The quote is the last line spoken at the end of the movie, and is just a voice over the last shot.

February 19, 2013

‎**Story of Appreciation**

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 10:22 pm

One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV that the youth’s academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research,
Never had a year when he did not score.

The director asked,
“Did you obtain any scholarships in school?”
The youth answered “none”.

The director asked,
” Was it your father who paid for your school fees?”
The youth answered,
“My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked,
” Where did your mother work?”
The youth answered,
“My mother worked as clothes cleaner.
The director requested the youth to show his hands.
The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked,
” Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?”
The youth answered,
“Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books.
Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said,
“I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother’s hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother’s hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother’s hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother’s hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother’s hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director’s office.

The Director noticed the tears in the youth’s eyes, asked:
” Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?”

The youth answered,
” I cleaned my mother’s hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes’

The Director asked,
” please tell me your feelings.”

The youth said,
Number 1,
I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today.
Number 2,
By working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.
Number 3,
I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said,
” This is what I am looking for to be my manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company’s performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop “entitlement mentality”and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent’s efforts.
When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others.
For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement.
He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*

You can let your kid live in a big house, give him a Driver & Car for going around, Eat a Good Meal, learn Piano, Watch a Big Screen TV. But when you are Cutting Grass, please let them experience it. After a Meal, let them Wash their Plates and Bowls together with their Brothers and Sisters. Tell them to Travel in Public Bus, It is not because you do not have Money for Car or to Hire a Maid, but it is because you want to Love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will Grow Grey, same as the Mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done..

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