`Sugar Coated Delusions`

June 14, 2008

Death of the Nice Guy: A Compilation

Filed under: Main — melfabro @ 6:53 pm

Never try to keep someone who does not want to keep you

Anything a person chases in life runs away.

In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.

“Needing” a girl is needy and you won’t get any girl by being needy. You need to refocus entirely and make your life more fulfilling…so fulfilling that you have to squeeze women into your schedule. If you look at most guys who are successful with women or in strong relationships you’ll notice they have other passions in their lives and to them sex and love isn’t really a huge deal.

Attraction isn’t a choice, but being attractive or getting there is a choice. Basically, the man I am trying to become is the one who is very fit, has a career, driven to succeed, and has game and is an overall good guy. Confidence is key and when life is good and you are chasing goals and achieving them, confidence will naturally follow. It is very easy for a woman to sense a man who is not confident and comfortable with who he is. Women are attracted to a man who knows who he is and what he wants in life. There is no question about it.

You seek a lady for yourself. You do not seek to please a lady for her. If a female has initially a low interest in you – you move on. If a female has initially a good level of interest – you keep her. If a female has initially a good level of interest but it is falling – you move on. If a female has a high level of interest – keep her.

“Never beg a woman to love you. If she leaves she leaves. Don’t perform grand gestures for her and don’t beg her to take you back. It only makes you look pathetic. Have some self respect and tell her to go ahead and leave and get on with your life.”

The greatest regrets in our lives are the risks we did not take. If you think something will make you happy, go for it. Remember that you pass this way only once.

Take an honest look in the mirror. If you were a stranger and were looking at yourself for the first time. What would your first impression be? Is that the impression you want to give off to people? If it is not, you must portray the man you want to become.

Whenever you find yourself spending up to 5 minutes trying to “figure out” what a woman is thinking—–KNOW that you’ve just spent 4 minutes TOO LONG.

Confidence is not about expecting success, or about being successful. It’s about not fearing failure.

Don’t worry about finding the right woman- concentrate on becoming the right man.

If you start out by displaying dependency on someone, it’s a turn off.

It is your attitude about yourself that a woman will observe the most.

Whenever a man requires too many things from a woman, she’ll resent it. Let her give what she wants to give freely; then observe who she is. This is a test of a person’s true character.

It’s not what we say out loud that really determines our lives. It’s what we whisper to ourselves that has the most power.

If a woman in a relationship begins to lose interest, it is usually impossible to regain it. The feelings you are having of confusion and fear mean something…trust your gut and move on immediately.

No man ought to be satisfied with a little if he is capable of using and enjoying more.

A quitter never wins and a winner never quits.

What a girl wants out of life will tell you more about her than anything else.

Never try to purchase a woman’s affections. Status attracts women who want this money; the shallow kind of woman that still has trouble searching for a deeper meaning in life besides collecting overpriced purses.

Never, never, never be afraid to approach a female. To reiterate: they all have the same body parts, and they are all composed of Carbon, Hydrogen, Oxygen, Nitrogen, and trace elements. There isn’t a single woman on Earth who is “above” you, no matter what her affectations and social pretenses.

Anytime a man competes with another man for a woman’s affections, he demeans himself. Whoever the ‘winner’ is, both have displayed a status lower than the girl they are fighting for.

A girl once said, “I can see if a guy is good in bed, just by the way he walks.”

A woman perceives an overly emotional man as more of a pushover.

Every man is what he is, because of the dominating thoughts, which he permits to occupy his mind.

Whatever you believe, with conviction, becomes your reality. If you can keep your mind clearly focused on what you want, and refrain from thinking about what you don’t want, you will attract everything you need to achieve your goals, exactly when you are ready. Change your thinking and you change your life.

You must show her that you have ambition, motivation, or job/financial security.

Most women tend to disrespect a man who appears to be too malleable.

Compliments lose their power each and every time you give one.

Always pay attention to a woman’s actions. If she says she likes you but will not respond to kissing or touching, then she doesn’t like you. Move on immediately.

Men that feel the need to prove themselves to women through words are generally the type of guys that always have a ton of detailed stories to tell about how they bang tons of babes… but you never seem to actually SEE them with one.

Attraction is an emotional and physical RESPONSE… and you can’t “convince” a woman to feel it with logic, gifts, and NICENESS.

A woman will find you of value if she thinks other women find you to be of value.

Be the man with scars. Learn from your mistakes and become stronger. Don’t be so afraid of failure that you forget to live your life.

Hang out with guys who are successful with women. You know the saying, “Tell me who you walk with and I will tell you who you are.” If you constantly hang out with guys who are successful with women, their attributes start to rub off on you.”

You really have to ask yourself, if you died right now, would you be happy with your life? What would you regret? What would you wish you had done? Live your life to the fullest and take opportunity when it arrives. Don’t let your mind get the better of you.

You can’t game genuineness, it is either there or it isn’t.

Improve on what you can (health, fitness, style) and embrace the things you cannot change (height, race, etc) Insecurity is an ugly thing, so confront the roots of your warped self image and banish this negativity from your mind. Only you can make yourself worthy of the best

NEVER take advice from women about women. It is because a woman’s advice will mislead you. A woman can explain what she finds attractive in a man, but she can’t teach you how to do it. It’s because she can’t teach you to become a man. She can’t teach you to walk like a man, talk like a man, think like a man, act like a man, etc. She cannot teach you to be a man. Try listening and doing it. Tell me if it works. Now, ask the player how he gets women and you will see a stark contrast to what every woman told you. Whose advice is right? Do you take the advice of that lady friend of yours? Or do you take the advice of that player with all the women? The lesson is simple. You don’t ask fish how to fish. Women cannot teach you what it is to be a man. They cannot take the place of male role models. Because men are the only human beings who can be male role models.



  1. definitely worth it

    Comment by BlakceO — December 12, 2008 @ 6:51 am

  2. +LIKE

    Comment by Anonymous — April 3, 2011 @ 12:45 pm

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